An Open Letter to Toke Makinwa and Anita Solomon (The wife and the side chick)

I saw this on facebook and decided to share. Hopefully it reaches to those it was addressed to. Toke Makinwa is a popular OAP whose husband got a girl pregnant after celebrating one year anniversary with wife. Read the letter below.;

Dear ladies,

Its such a pity that both of you have become the topic of Nigerian gossip media and have been dragged on the harsh and dirty floor of limelight this past one month. The Nigerian media and its people have not been quiet, neither have hey been gentle. both of you have picked up many names overnight but the ones that have stocked are these two: victim and home breaker. Since Toke is the legal wife and the one seemed to be wronged here, she is the victim; and since Anita is the mistress and seems to be doing all the evil she then is the home breaker.

Side chick and toke's husband

But the truth remains that these two names are wrongly given and do not befit any of you. Firstly, maybe there is a victim in all of this but its certainly not Toke. If anything this saga, as unfortunate as it may be, has done so much good and publicity for her brand and name. Toke has all of a sudden become the most talked about person in Nigeria the past one month and her vlog has gone viral. So victim is certainly not a name that should be associated with her, perhaps what the enemy has meant for hurt has been turned around for her good.

Anita Solomon on the order hand is not a home breaker. how can someone who never held a thing break it? the home was never hers, she was never in it and as a result could never have broken it. Maje Ayida (Mr i cannot control my dick) is the only one the name ‘home breaker’ befits because he broke his home. His home was his duty to uphold, not Anita’s. i know the Nigerian culture is very quick to put all the blame on the woman in a situation like this hence Anita, again, is the evil here. But have you ever asked yourselves whether this Anita girl held a gun to Maje’s head to force him to sleep with her? was it not Maje that went after this Anita girl even though he is married?

Toke and husband

Back to the subjects -Toke and Anita. Both of you must hate each other right now. The grudge you both hold for each other right now is immeasurable. Toke hates the Anita who is sleeping with her husband and Anita hates the Toke who took Maje from her. How dare her? The pain, the anger, no wonder you want to pay Toke back, and if it means shaming yourself publicly, you would do it. Well you have Anita- you have indeed shamed both of you. But did it ever occur to your hurting mind and heart that the person to repay back in the dumping of you was never Toke? Did it ever occur to you that it is Mr Maje that wronged you not Toke? Dont you feel stupid, at least a little bit, that you are actually pregnant for a man who dumped you after dating you for eight years and married someone else in your face irrespective of your feelings? When Maje proposed to Toke i believed you complained, your were angry and threatened to leave him but irrespective of all that he went ahead and married her in disregard to however you felt. In fact he dumped you and loosing you didnt matter to him, he went ahead and chose Toke. This single action is the ultimate action that proves and shows that he chose Toke over you. That he came back to start sleeping with you after he married Toke does not in any way mean he loves you, no girl. It is simply indiscipline due to the fact that society allows it, and secondly you are easy and available and do not cost him anything.

Now when i say ‘cost him anything’, i don’t mean it in terms of whether he gives you money or not, what i mean is that he didnt and doesn’t have to give up anything to have you. To have Toke he gave you up but he would not do the reverse for you. And as long as he does not have to give up anything for you, he will keep on sleeping with you- get used to it, men are selfish. And pregnancy is one of the mistakes that happen when a man is sleeping around with women carelessly, its not because you are special. Anita, you are pregnant because you allowed sex without protection and any other girl who allows this would also get pregnant- simple.

But now you are pregnant, and people are angry and asking why Maje is footing the delivery bill if he is really sorry? eh, who else should? Does he have a choice? Is he not the one who got Anita pregnant in the first place so its his responsibility to foot the bill whether he likes it or not. Sorry Toke, but the fact is, your husband made a mess and he must take care of it. No matter what Anita did, her baby deserves to be taken care of by the man who impregnated her. See, in all this saga Anita, this is the only one right you have- you and Maje made that baby and both of you must be responsible for the upkeep of it. But don’t for any reason think you have won, because a winner is someone who gets what they set out for in the beginning. I don’t believe that this was your dream when you were growing up Anita. No woman’s dream is to be a side chick. Yes many women accept this position as a result of life’s difficulties, but its never any woman’s dream. And the sad truth here is that you, Anita, are the only one who is not living her dream in this story. Toke is living her dream to be married and be the madam of her home. Even the Maje is living his dream to marry a beautiful woman and have her in his house. Both Toke and Waje are living together and building a home and future but you are alone in a rented one bed room apartment and giving your services as a mistress to a man who clearly chose another over you, and is building his life with another woman while using you as occasional cool offs. Even after you give birth to the child the situation would remain the same because i have not heard this Maje come out to openly own you, if anything he denied you in the beginning of the rumours and that shows again that he is not willing to give up or loose Toke because of you.

The only way this Maje man would end up with you, Anita, is if Toke refuses to take him back. So if this was a competition (and i hope it is not because i want to believe that Nigerian women have better ambitions than competing for dogs) you, my dear Anita, have clearly lost shamefully and i think you know this and that is why you are so bent on hurting Toke back.

As for you Toke, As much as i sympathize with you in all these, the truth remains that you are married to a dog and the bad news is that Anita is not the problem! As much as you may want to think that she is the problem, she is not. With or without Anita, your husband would be F**king around. Do not forget that he has been sleeping with you and her for over 12 years now. If we get rid of Anita, it would be other women and it would go on and on because that is just who you married. Bad news number two is that Anita is not the only ‘other woman’ your husband is sleeping with, she just happens to be the one that got pregnant.  In fact Anita might as well be a victim in this saga.

Did it ever occur to you, Toke, that Anita may be genuinely and helplessly in love with Maje and he is taking advantage of her? I mean come to think of it, she dated him for 8 years, the same time he dated you for 12 years so he was cheating on both of you simultaneously. So Anita is not the bad guy here and she is definitely not the problem, and this is bad news for you my dear Toke because what this means is that your problem is here to stay- that is if you choose to take Maje back. I am in no position to tell you what to do and i want to believe the best for you but the truth is that the future is not bright- not your future as you are clearly a success; but it is your future with Maje that is not bright. You would always be reminded of all the humiliation and pain he has put you through, and live in expectation of the many more he would put you through. So your last Vlog advise might as well be for yourself: You are better off alone.